Selected Writings on
People
Richard
Peter
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Discussions about People
Audio-taped Dialogue
Richard
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Peter | 2 |
Vineeto | 2 |
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Related Questions/Objections
Do you give Public Talks?
Personal Life?
Personal Relationships
How am ‘I’ humanity
and
humanity is ‘me’?
Is Actualism for
mentally ill People?
Vibes and Psychic Powers?
Actualists Don’t Care
Actualism is a Cult
Actualists are Clones of
Richard
Arrogant and Know-It-All
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Please note that some text below was written by the feeling-being ‘Peter’ while ‘he’ lived in a pragmatic
(methodological), still-in-control/same-way-of-being Virtual Freedom before becoming actually free. |
People
Peter: By living in the actual world I now associate with
people in an entirely new way. Gone is the need for ‘friends’ to share my sorrow with. Gone is the need to be part of a ‘group’ as a
protection from imaginary fears, or for the sharing of common beliefs. Gone is the need for someone to look after me, someone to care and
support me. I have no need for love as a temporary bridge to overcome the feelings of loneliness and separation.
I have actually always been on my own and looked after myself very well in my life,
and people have simply come and gone, for varying periods of time and involvement. It’s only that now I don’t have any pretences or
bargains, where I do something for someone only in return for their helping me. Now if someone does something for me it is an unexpected bonus
and if I do something for someone else it is a pleasure, freely given.
I am, for the first time, living my own life, not someone else’s. The bargains,
bonds, deals, clinging and neediness have simply disappeared. I now regard allowing freedom, as far superior to giving love, with its
accompanying needs, demands and expectations. To allow anyone I meet to be free of me, as I am free of them. A free association. I am now able
to enjoy and delight in the company of my fellow human beings for as long as is appropriate. It may be rather constantly with Vineeto, or
briefly with the check-out girl at the local supermarket.
However, I am under no illusion, and know that the essential nature of people is
malicious and sorrowful; in fact, now it is even more obvious to me, so well do I know the Human Condition. I am now free to take people as I
find them, without investment or expectation, suspicion or competition, attack or defence. Consequently my interactions are invariably
delightful and interesting – but then again so am I, so why not? I harbour no hidden suspicions or doubts, fears, secrets or ulterior motives
– those feelings we usually label as ‘intuition’. What you see is sincerely what you get. It is such a relief not to run an identity or a
‘self’, and to have to battle it out or herd together with others in order to ‘survive’.
What I have found is that this is the only game to play in town, and it’s called
actually becoming happy and harmless, not just pretending or avoiding. I become free instantly, incrementally, as each belief is replaced with
the facts. If something pops up that is preventing my happiness right now then I have something else to look at. And I simply work my way
through the list…
Then the day comes when being happy and harmless is my very nature, rather than
being malicious and sorrowful, as is Human Nature. Then it is effortless – once the work is done.
It is indeed a wide and wondrous path to freedom…
Richard: This is my position: we are all fellow human
beings who find ourselves here in the world as it was when we were born. We find war, murder, torture, rape, domestic violence and corruption
to be endemic ... we notice that it is intrinsic to the human condition ... we set out to discover why this is so. We find sadness, loneliness,
sorrow, grief, depression and suicide to be a global incidence ... and we gather that it is also inherent to the human condition ... and we
want to know why. We report to each other as to the nature of our discoveries for we are all well-meaning and seek to find a way out of this
mess that we have landed in.
Whether one believes in re-incarnation or not, we are all
living this particular life for the very first time, and we wish to make sense of it. It is a challenge and the adventure of a life-time to
enquire and to uncover, to seek and to find, to explore and to discover. All this being alive business is actually happening and we are totally
involved in living it out ... whether we take the back seat or not, we are all still doing it.
I, for one, am not taking the back seat. (Richard, Actual Freedom List, Irene, 6
October 1998).
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