VINEETO: But don’t expect anyone else to do it for you, only you can – by direct experience – determine the veracity of what is on offer on the Actual Freedom Trust website and only you can determine whether actualism is indeed brand new in human history.

RESPONDENT: Very true. Have no problem with that – just Richard’s claims of uniqueness.

VINEETO: If you had no problem with actualism being brand new in human history you would not object to Richard being the pioneer of this brand new discovery. What you really are saying is that you think actualism is not brand new because you compare it to the Tried and Failed spiritual methods of Byron Katie and Zen teachers, therefore to you Richard’s discovery is not unique.

It is interesting that thus far only those who are well and truly disenchanted with all religious and spiritual teachings – and that includes Buddhism and Zen – have been able to discover the transparently palpable difference between practicing dissociation and the elimination of both one’s social identity and one’s instinctual ‘being’ that allows the actual world to become apparent.

RESPONDENT: I am currently investigating Actualism and using the methods.

VINEETO: There is only one method in actualism. If you think that actualism has any similarity to Byron Katie’s four questions or to Zen Buddhist teachings then you need to further investigate in order to discover the genuine actualism method. To give you a hint, the actualism method has an inherent non-spiritual and down-to-earth intent – to become happy and harmless in the world as-it-is, with people as-they-are. There is nothing other-worldly, nothing self-aggrandizing, nothing nihilistic, nothing negative, nothing dissociative and nothing self-centred about that intent.

RESPONDENT: I’m also finding Byron Katie’s four questions (The Work www.thework.org) to be an excellent means of disengaging from all sorts of thoughts, stories and beliefs. Using feelings as a guide, you can investigate the stories you’ve attached to. Investigation uncouples complex intertwined stories and feelings. The mutual induction between story and feeling unlocks and they dissolve naturally.

VINEETO: I read her website and the interview with Sunny Massad the first time you mentioned her. Her method is very similar to other methods of Eastern spirituality – one is to disengage, i.e. dissociate from one’s ‘stories’ or projections in order to become one’s true Self, which she calls ‘total love’ or being God. Elements of this particular method were common tools in the Personal Growth Movement (Esalem Institute) and the New Age therapy groups that subsequently blossomed and which were later to be refined by Eastern spiritual teachers to the dissociation tools that they are today – ‘you’re projecting’, ‘you are yourself what you hate in others’ and so on. I have spent years doing and assisting in the running of groups where such methods were used – at best the doing of such groups and the use of such methods offer a temporary period of dissociation from the burdens of being a self, at worst both the groups and the methods become an addictive way of dissociating from the business of being here.

Whereas actualism is paying exclusive attention to the business of being here in this physical universe in this only moment I can experience.

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VINEETO: Seeing that you are not yet ‘done on this list’ and have not yet moved on to ‘more fruitful avenues’ but stayed to post more allegations about actualists, I thought I would make a comment on your last post to No 58 –

RESPONDENT: Yeah, I’m a contrary guy at times. Thankfully, reading this list and investigating more fruitful avenues is not a binary either/or opposition for me. Besides, I wanted to issue a ‘big up’ to my mate No 58.

VINEETO: I noticed that the ‘big up’ to your ‘mate’ consisted of little other than adversarial statements about other members of this mailing list. When I became aware of the implications of exclusive friendship and loyalty I realized that as long as I nourished those ideals I would not be able to be harmless and I would not be able to live with people in peace and harmony. Exclusive friendship and loyalty are anathema to peace and harmlessness because those feelings always demand that one takes sides and supports one’s friends, family, tribe or nation in their animosity, regardless of the facts of the situation.

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RESPONDENT to No 58: I guess you realise this already – the Actualists are approaching you as if they are dealing with an ‘alien parasite’. You’ve witnessed their fanatical ‘debating’ style and rigorous adherence to doctrine. They don’t tolerate dissent or doubt and barely acknowledge your positive statements. They are applying their methods on you in quite a mechanical way – not that I think you’re in any danger of falling for their pea and shell tricks. They have to expend this kind of energy in debate because it’s what they do to keep their own ‘entity’ at bay. It’s a reflection of the internal pressures they are applying on themselves. I think all they have succeeded in doing is to downsize their ‘entity’ and teach it to survive by camouflaging itself... as an Actualist! How cunning is that? Survival is it’s game after all. If you treat yourself as a cunning alien parasite then that’s what you’ll get. It’s why I think the actualist method is ultimately futile because the entity will adapt by ‘shape shifting’ just enough to let the ‘host’ feel ‘actually free’. Consciousness is the tip of a very large unconscious iceberg – who really knows what kind of resources the entity has to draw on in its quest to survive?

VINEETO: Your above allegations against actualists are an excellent opportunity to apply Byron Katie’s method in order to find out about your feelings against actualism, which persistently prevent you from understanding what is really on offer here. Let me quote Byron Katie’s website for clarification as to how she intended her method to be used –

[quote]: Then, through a technique she calls the turnaround, Katie coaxes the person to look inside rather than outside for the solution. ‘He should understand me,’ for example, may become, ‘I should understand him and myself.’ A woman at this evening’s session gripes that her sister is holier than thou but discovers that she is doing the same thing. Subjective judgments are vigorously challenged, seen as personal ‘projections’ or ‘stories.’ http://www.time.com/time/innovators/spirituality/profile_katie.html

If you find her method to be excellent then I can only presume that if you ‘look inside rather than outside’ as far as your allegations are concerned you might find inside a ‘fanatical ‘debating’ style and rigorous adherence to doctrine’, a non-tolerance to ‘dissident or doubt’, an application of your ‘methods … in quite a mechanical way’. <snip>

RESPONDENT: Excellent opportunity, indeed. Of course I’m sure you already realise that since I am reasonably intelligent and perceptive this has already occurred to me. I have indeed made such investigations for myself. However, I do realise that you are making a point for your readers.

VINEETO: No, the point I was making was in response to your outburst of unsubstantiated allegations. You had said that you endorsed Byron Katie’s teachings to ‘look inside rather than outside’ and I assumed, apparently wrongly, that if you applied her teachings with sincerity you would no longer have the need to make emotionally-charged unsubstantiated allegations against your fellow mailing list members.

RESPONDENT: What your readers need to know (in case they did not realise this from your post) is that the Work as outlined by Byron Katie (www.thework.org) is a tool for self investigation. It’s common for beginners to think that the Work is something you use to simply make your beliefs, thoughts and feelings wrong. It’s also common to see people use the Work as a rhetorical tool to ‘turn around’ the argument and attempt to discredit their opponent with a barely concealed suggestion of hypocrisy. It’s a favourite sport of some to play the ‘mirror game’ which degenerates to ‘I know you are but what am I?’ This is not what the Work is about. The Work does not invalidate concepts – it simply allows you to examine the effect they have on you.

VINEETO: According to your explanation the investigation of one’s concepts is merely for the purpose of ‘self’-knowledge, to see ‘the effect’ your concepts have on you and not for the purpose of seeing their harmful effect on others. As such my suggestion to apply Byron Katie’s method to ‘look inside rather than outside’ was misinformed in that her teaching doesn’t include the intent to become harmless and happy and as such her method is purely ‘self’-serving and utterly useless for bringing about peace-on-earth.

RESPONDENT: Despite the ‘spiritual’ scare tag placed on Byron Katie by the Actualists, she doesn’t tell you where your investigations should take you, she doesn’t tell you that you will end up being enlightened or ‘spiritual’. The agenda you blend with the Work is your business.

VINEETO: The other day an acquaintance told me that she was learning life-skills from Byron Katie and quoted an example of her newly acquired wisdom – ‘There are my things, there are your things and there are God’s things and one should always keep them apart.’ And you try to tell me that Byron Katie is not spiritual. Until you prove to me that God is physical matter I will continue to call Him/Her/It a non-physical spirit and any teaching that mentions God a teaching ‘pertaining to a spirit’, i.e. a spiritual teaching.

RESPONDENT: I chose to use the Work without knowing where it would take me.

VINEETO: And yet you have just made it clear that you already know where ‘the Work’ is not going to take you –

[Respondent]: It’s common for beginners to think that the Work is something you use to simply make your beliefs, thoughts and feelings wrong. [endquote].

Personally I never placed any such conditions on my self-investigations otherwise I would never have questioned, let alone become free of my vainglorious spiritual beliefs.

RESPONDENT: I started using the Work some time after using the actualist method and found that it works in very well with ‘how am I experiencing this moment of being alive?’

VINEETO: Of course, you can use the sentence ‘how am I experiencing myself being alive’ for any purpose of your own choosing but in actualism this sentence is used with the sole intent of becoming harmless and happy – otherwise it is not actualism.

RESPONDENT: Will this bring an actual freedom?

VINEETO: Of course not. Byron Katie’s intent of ‘self’-knowledge is equivalent to ‘God’-knowledge and an actual freedom is freedom from the human condition of malice and sorrow … and spiritual beliefs are a major component of human malice and sorrow. Not only do spiritual beliefs feed off human malice and sorrow and by doing so actively perpetuate human malice and sorrow, spiritual beliefs only exist and only continue to exist because human beings insist on remaining passionate and imaginative beings.

Which is why only the ending of being a ‘being’ will bring an actual freedom from the human condition in toto.

VINEETO: In other words, you want actual freedom to be just another version of spiritualism à la Robert Linssen, Byron Katie and John Wren Lewis and you make no secret about being adversarial to Richard and others for stating the fact that actualism isn’t spiritualism.

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VINEETO: I took the liberty of snipping large parts of your reply in order to concentrate on the pertinent points.

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RESPONDENT: Coming from my direct experience, I cannot agree with your ridiculous conclusion that ‘her method is purely ‘self’-serving and utterly useless for bringing about peace-on-earth’. How the hell would you know anyway, given your lack of direct experience with the Work?

VINEETO: As I said, I have ample experience with the practice of acquiring ‘self’-knowledge’ from years of spiritual therapy which included methods like Byron Katie’s ‘look inside rather than outside’. I also have the contrasting experience of a PCE when one is not being a ‘self’ and I have my experience of years of living in virtual freedom from malice and sorrow. By this comparison I know that any self investigation without the explicit aim of becoming harmless and happy is inevitably ‘self’-empowering and ‘self’-aggrandizing although I would not have understood, let alone admitted to it, in my spiritual years. Maybe it is easier to understand when I say that in spiritual practice one’s ego-self might receive some bashing but one’s soul-self will always emerge closer to God or to the ‘divine nature’ and thus grander than ever. <snip>

RESPONDENT: I don’t give a toss whether Byron Katie is spiritual.

VINEETO: If you ‘don’t give a toss’ then why do you make the comment that actualists are placing a ‘spiritual’ scare tag’ on Byron Katie? Either her teachings are spiritual or they are not. Which is it?

RESPONDENT: Byron Katie can be as spiritual as you like and I don’t give a toss.

VINEETO: I’m not making Byron Katie spiritual – by her own words she declares herself to be spiritual. It was you who made a very clear statement that she is not spiritual and that you believe she has attained actual freedom.

[Respondent]: I believe that there are a number of people who have attained actual freedom but just use different terminology to you. The descriptions vary and the reports are coloured by cultural and personal influences but they are remarkably similar to what you report. I’ll offer up one example – Byron Katie. < … > I suspect that you will label her ‘spiritual’ and write her off but don’t be too quick to do this – she says that she offers a method for freedom. She doesn’t say that it is spiritual salvation. Extraordinary proof, 19.10.2003

One of the main thrusts of your argument that Richard is not the first to be free from the human condition in toto was that others, Byron Katie included, had also attained an actual freedom. Yet when it was made clear that her method of self-investigation is diametrically opposite both in intent and in practice to the actualism method then suddenly is not important at all that she is spiritual and you toss it aside as irrelevant – ‘I don’t give a toss whether Byron Katie is spiritual’. You made the claim she ‘attained actual freedom’ – a freedom that includes freedom from spiritual belief and calenture – and now you are busy fudging the issue and/or attempting to avoid it.

Given that you yourself maintain the pantheistic belief that –

[Respondent]: I prefer the term ‘nature’ or ‘universe’ in which case physical matter would be a significant subset contained within ‘God’. Byron Katie and actualism, 8.12.2003

… you are not likely to want to clearly distinguish between what is spiritual and what isn’t because pantheists are renowned for having a vested interest in keeping the distinction between spiritual and non-spiritual blurred. Many Pantheists think of themselves as being non-spiritual because they have turned their back on formal organized religions such as Christianity and they choose to remain unaware of the fact that they have only landed themselves in a more nebulous but no less virulent religious belief system.

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RESPONDENT: The Work itself isn’t. Here are the four questions for the Work: 1. Is it true? 2. Can you be absolutely sure it’s true? 3. How do you react when you think that thought (believe that belief etc)? 4. Who or what would you be without the thought or belief? Turn it around. Where is the spiritual component in this?

VINEETO: What you have done is taken Byron Katie’s method and stripped it of all of its spiritual and religious intent and presented that as proof that the Work itself is not spiritual, which only means that you take snippets from here and there in order to fit your pantheistic all-inclusive agenda. You separate the milk from the yoghurt, so to speak, in separating Byron Katie’s God-hood from her method that came to her in her God-hood so that other people can become as free as she perceives her God-hood to be.

If you strip the context and the intent of the method you are using, I am wondering when you use Byron Katie’s technique from which direction you ‘turn it around’ and into which direction you ‘turn it around’ and what’s the purpose of this effort.

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RESPONDENT: Where have I tried to assert that Byron Katie is not spiritual?

VINEETO: Here –

[Respondent]: I find that her system of four questions works in very nicely with what you have on offer and fast too. I suspect that you will label her ‘spiritual’ and write her off but don’t be too quick to do this – she says that she offers a method for freedom. She doesn’t say that it is spiritual salvation. Extraordinary Proof, 19.10.2003

And here again –

[Respondent]: I think you’re too hung up on terminology. I use the word god from time to time but not in a personal-god sense. I mean it in the sense of that which is greater than myself or reality. You’ll find that Byron Katie has a similar understanding of the word. Some people say god, others use universe, nature etc – you say ‘actual world’. … BK just uses different language to you. At any rate (and this is important) the four questions in the method given (the Work) do NOT speak of god at all! Extraordinary Proof, 20.10.2003

I know you have acknowledged that ‘I’m a contrary guy at times’ but it would seem that your ‘vigorous response to actualists’ is based solely on maintaining a ‘vigorous response’, regardless of the facts of the matter. Perhaps somewhere in your next ‘vigorous response’ to me you could make it patently clear as to whether you are arguing that Byron Katie is spiritual or that she is not spiritual otherwise I am left with the impression that you are writing to me solely for the sake of disagreeing with me.

RESPONDENT: That’s your best shot? That’s really lame. I’ve just re-read your quotes and I still cannot see where I have said that Byron Katie is not spiritual. Anyone else see it? I can’t. I look forward to more language abuse from Vineeto. Being an actualist means never being in error, apparently. Perhaps, Vineeto, you can prove my cynicism about you wrong and just admit a small error of misunderstanding on your part.

VINEETO: So when you say Byron Katie ‘says that she offers a method for freedom. She doesn’t say that it is spiritual salvation’ and ‘BK just uses different language to you’, does this not mean that you are trying to assert that Byron Katie is not spiritual? You might have noticed that I did ask you to clarify the matter for me by answering a simple question –

[Respondent]: I don’t give a toss whether Byron Katie is spiritual.

[Vineeto]: If you ‘don’t give a toss’ then why do you make the comment that actualists are placing a ‘spiritual’ scare tag’ on Byron Katie? Either her teachings are spiritual or they are not. Which is it?

[Respondent]: Byron Katie can be as spiritual as you like and I don’t give a toss. [endquote].

You have chosen to pass over this question in this post and you now accuse me of language abuse and suggest that I have to prove your cynicism wrong by admitting my ‘small error of understanding’. Firstly, if you are cynical of me then that is your business and secondly, if you will provide me with a clear answer to my question then my ‘small error of misunderstanding’ will be cleared up. In other words, I was asking for clarity, you continue to fudge the issue and continue to be adversarial.

RESPONDENT: Just to clarify, in those quotes I was suggesting that it was unimportant as to whether BK is getting all spiritual and fuzzy on us or not. I was, however, asserting that the Work itself is not spiritual (it’s just four questions and a turnaround) and I will add right now that you can combine the Work with any agenda or intent you care to, spiritual or not.

VINEETO: Let me introduce to you some direct quotes from Byron Katie herself about her method in which she makes it unequivocally clear that her method is about Love and God and Truth and nothing else –

[Byron Katie]: ‘Every story, every thing is God: reality. It apparently emerges from out of itself and appears as a life. It lives forever within the story, until the story ends. From out of Itself I appeared as my story, until the questions brought me home’. www.thework.org/about/katieQuotes.html.

[Byron Katie]: ‘... if you let the mind ask its questions, then the heart will rise with the answer. And ‘rising’ is just a metaphor. The heart will reveal the answer, and the mind can finally rest at home in the heart and come to see that it and the heart are one. That’s what these four questions are about’.  www.thework.org/about/katieQuotes2.html.

[Byron Katie]: ‘Unconditional love, that’s what this Work leads to’.  www.thework.org/workInPrint/WatkinsReview.html.

[Anne Hardy]: ‘What would you say is the power behind The Work?

[Byron Katie]: ‘Unconditional love. Love is the power’. www.thework.org/workInPrint/WatkinsReview.html

[Byron Katie]: ‘These four questions take people directly to the Truth’ www.thework.org/workInPrint/PacificSun.html

[Byron Katie]: ‘The highest truth, if you can bear it, is that God is what is, and I mean all of it’. www.thework.org/workInPrint/SacredAmerica.html

And just a last one because it is so explicit –

[Byron Katie]: ‘For me, everything is God. Everything and everyone’. www.thework.org/workInPrint/PacificSun.html

Her teachings are a true expression of the Pantheism that has become the religious flavour of the decade –

‘Pantheism – the belief or philosophical theory that God and the universe are identical (implying a denial of the personality and transcendence of God); the identification of God with the forces of nature and natural substances.’ Oxford Dictionary

RESPONDENT: To get all tizzy about BK’s spirituality is probably a bit like refusing to drive a VW Beetle because Hitler had a hand with the design. You can get all ‘principled’ if you like but you can admire the design and engineering without loving Hitler and becoming a Nazi.

VINEETO: Automotive engineers designed the VW Beetle and Hitler only approved the finished design, which he then ordered to have built as a cheap people’s car. Your comparison is utterly flawed because Hitler did not have ‘a hand with the design’ whereas Byron Katie’s method came solely as a result of her own state of dissociation –

[Allison Adato]: ‘Katie says she awoke one morning to the sensation of a cockroach crawling across her foot. She opened her eyes and, she explains in her book, ‘It was as if something else had woken up. It opened its eyes. It was looking through Katie’s eyes ... it was intoxicated with joy.’ At that moment, she claims, the four questions appeared in her consciousness’. [all emphasis added] www.thework.org/workInPrint/LATimesMag.html

In other words, there was no separation between her method and her altered state of consciousness – the method came as a result of her being in an altered state and she makes it clear that her method is designed specifically to enable others to reach the same state.

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VINEETO: I found that all that was required for me to be sensible was to simply acknowledge the facts of the matter – regardless of whatever feelings and beliefs I may have originally had about the matter.

RESPONDENT: That’s so banal. ‘Oh of course slap forehead. I should have been looking at the facts of the matter!’ Wow that’s revolutionary. What till the world hears about that one! Hey, everyone, try this! Check the ‘facts of the matter’ and get over it! Gee, no one else but an actualist looks at the ‘facts of the matter’, right?

Vineeto, let me break this to you gently ... there are people in the world who are every bit as sincere as you are about checking ‘the facts of the matter’ regardless of how they feel and who are sincerely willing to relinquish beliefs and preconception in order to do so. Many of those people are scientific in outlook and realise that all beliefs are contingent – those of us who don’t realise this are blinkered by unconscious choice.

VINEETO: So far your statements ‘I don’t give a toss whether Byron Katie is spiritual. The Work itself isn’t’ prove the opposite – you were not only disinterested to ‘check the facts of the matter’ for yourself but when ‘the facts of the matter’ were presented to you, you then responded with denial, duckshoving, cynicism and sarcasm. It would be a pity to let the facts of the matter stand in the way of a good belief, hey?

As for being ‘blinkered by unconscious choice’ – once I realized that my ‘unconscious choice’ prevented me from living happily and in peace with others I decided to un-earth and disempower the unconscious parts of my psyche in order to be able to start making conscious and sensible choices. There is no other secret to making the unconscious conscious but the determination and sincere intent to do so in order that one can become both harmless and happy, the rest is application and diligence.

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RESPONDENT: The Work is definitely not spiritual – it’s a method for self investigation.

VINEETO: Has it ever occurred to you that the method is only as good as the goal one wants to achieve with using the method? <snip> In short, if the aim is not ‘self’-immolation it is inevitably ‘self’-aggrandizement and ‘Self’-empowerment.

RESPONDENT: Ah, yes. Goals are good for achieving desired outcomes like building empires and manipulating the masses but in some matters, including self investigation, I prefer to let the investigation and curiosity direct the outcome. Preconceptions are so boring.

VINEETO: The goals in actualism have nothing to do with ‘building empires and manipulating the masses’ – I wonder if you read anything at all on the Actual Freedom Trust website as your cynical fantasy is running wild again. To have the goal to get rid of malice and sorrow is indispensable for the ‘desired outcome’ of being happy and harmless because unless I have the deliberate and altruistic intent to actively tackle the human condition within me, I am forever at the mercy of the genetically encoded forces of nature – the instinctual passions of fear, aggression, nurture and desire. What you call ‘so boring’ is nothing other than the intent to change the ancient and genetically imprinted heritage of human nature.

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VINEETO: There is a diametrical difference between actualism and Byron Katie’s methodology, not only in goal but also in technique.

RESPONDENT: Yes, there is a difference there. Actualists like to ‘take apart’ and destroy their concepts.

VINEETO: I am pleased that at last you recognize differences between your favourite teachers and actualism because in my experience such acknowledgements can lead to a clear-eyed understanding of what actualism is on about. But it is not that actualists ‘destroy’ their concepts for no reason or purpose – my beliefs and emotions are questioned whenever they stand in the way of me being happy and harmless. The intent comes first and the investigation of beliefs and feelings only happens as a consequence of this intent. In other words, I know what I want – an actual freedom from the human condition of malice and sorrow – and then I do whatever it takes to reach my goal. To investigate without the goal to become actually free from ‘self’ is purely ‘self’-serving.

RESPONDENT: Tell me – how does one take apart a thought or belief? Do you mock it and call it ‘silly’ to make it go away? Does this wipe the program clear? The computer analogy only goes so far with the mind. Attempts to banish thoughts are ultimately futile.

VINEETO: Actualism is not about banishing thoughts at all – actualism is about becoming free of the instinctual passions that are the source of all of human malice and sorrow. And you again deliberately ignore the most important part of the method of actualism – pure intent. For someone for whom ‘preconceptions are so boring’ pure intent does not even enter the picture of self-investigation and consequently taking apart one’s beliefs will appear ‘futile’. When you have the intent to become free from your insidious good and bad feelings in order to experience the felicitous feelings each moment again, then the investigation into your beliefs and feelings has a purpose and a direction and as such will show incremental success.

RESPONDENT: I prefer the Byron Katie model – examine your thoughts and beliefs deeply enough and they will unravel naturally. Gentle observation does the trick. That’s been my experience.

VINEETO: Does what trick? What is the purpose of ‘unravelling’ your thoughts and beliefs? What is it you achieve and how do you know that you achieved something if you have no preconceptions and no goal, let alone a benchmark against which to measure your success?

As for ‘gentle observation’ and without ‘preconceptions’ at that – I think the description of the human condition on Richard’s homepage speaks for itself –

Richard: The instinctual passions are the very energy source of the rudimentary animal self ... the base consciousness of ‘self’ and ‘other’ that all sentient beings have. The human animal – with its unique ability to be aware of its own death – transforms this ‘reptilian brain’ rudimentary core of ‘being’ (an animal ‘self’) into being a feeling ‘me’ (as soul in the heart) and the ‘feeler’ then infiltrates into thought to become the ‘thinker’ ... a thinking ‘I’ (as ego in the head). No other animal can do this. That this process is aided and abetted by the human beings who were already on this planet when one was born – which is conditioning and programming and is part and parcel of the socialising process – is but the tip of the iceberg and not the main issue at all. All the different types of conditioning are well-meant endeavours by countless peoples over countless aeons to seek to curb the instinctual passions. Now, while most people paddle around on the surface and re-arrange the conditioning to ease their lot somewhat, some people – seeking to be free of all human conditioning – fondly imagine that by putting on a face-mask and snorkel that they have gone deep-sea diving with a scuba outfit ... deep into the human condition.

They have not ... they have gone deep only into the human conditioning. When they tip upon the instincts – which are both savage (fear and aggression) and tender (nurture and desire) – they grab for the tender (the ‘good’ side) and blow them up all out of proportion. If they succeed in this self-aggrandising hallucination they start talking twaddle dressed up as sagacity such as: ‘There is a good that knows no evil’ or ‘There is a love that knows no opposite’ or ‘There is a compassion that sorrow has never touched’ and so on. Which means that the ‘Enlightened Beings’ advise dissociation (wherein painful reality is transformed into a bad dream) as being the most effective means to deal with all the wars and murders and rapes and tortures and domestic violence and child abuse and sadness and loneliness and grief and depression and suicides and the such-like. Just as a traumatised victim of an horrific and terrifying event makes the experience unreal in order to cope with the ordeal, the ‘Enlightened Beings’ have desperately done precisely this thing ... during what is sometimes called ‘the dark night of the soul’.

This is because it takes nerves of steel to don such an aqua-lung and plunge deep in the stygian depths of the human psyche ... it is not for the faint of heart or the weak of knee. This is because past the human conditioning is the human condition itself ... that which caused the conditioning in the first place. To end this condition, the deletion of blind nature’s software package which gave rise to the rudimentary animal ‘self’ is required. This is the elimination of ‘me’ at the core of ‘being’.

The complete and utter extinction of ‘being’ is the end to all the ills of humankind. Richard, Homepage

Byron Katie never went ‘deep-sea diving’ herself, she grabbed for the tender passions as soon as there was a chance and blew them up all out of proportion such that she now perceives herself to be God personified, and not only herself but ‘everything and everyone’ as well. There is far, far more to becoming free from the human condition in toto than an intent-less ‘gentle observation’.