May 24 2026

VINEETO: You are very welcome and I am pleased to read that “this insight has taken the legs out from underneath ‘me’”. It was obviously so engrained and inveterate that only a ‘thunderbolt’ insight allowed you to finally recognize it.
What was the action which was “the only response possible”?

KUBA: I think action might not be the best word, I just couldn’t find any other word to fit though. It was that ‘I’ couldn’t squirm away from the seeing, which the “squirming away” could exactly take the form of castigation or shame, or any other way to direct attention away from this seeing working its way through ‘me’.

I guess I could also say that the ‘action’ is the knowing that ‘I’ am simply not prepared to continue walking down that path (as it is a rotten path), no matter the ramifications for ‘me’.

VINEETO: Hi Kuba,

Thank you for the clarification – the reason I asked because there is a difference between realisation, no matter how fundamental and breath-taking it is, and actualisation –

Richard: Generally speaking a realisation is an understanding of something previously not cognised and an actualisation is the putting of that comprehension into action ... as in acting upon that cognisance so that it is experiential and not only intellectual. (Sundry, FAQ, Difference between Realisation and Actualisation).

Richard: My experience with the peoples who have chosen to give felicity/ innocuity a go is, as a generalisation, that the necessary paradigm shift has usually been a gradual process of comprehension – not necessarily an instantaneous shift – and which paradigmatical change commences because of that choice ... and that choice mainly comes after a gestation period (which itself follows intelligent appraisal/ thoughtful consideration).

And, by way of personal example, I need only point to the six-month incubation period (in 1980) already mentioned. (Richard, Actual Freedom List, No. 60g, 30 October 2005b).

Here is an example of my own most profound realisation and eventual actualisation –

Richard: Hence it came to pass one fine evening that feeling-being ‘Vineeto’ realised, with a profound visceral impact, how ‘she’ had never actually cared – although ‘she’ certainly felt caring (in fact ‘she’ had a deeply-ingrained and ongoing feeling of caring about all the misery and mayhem) – and upon that realisation transforming itself into an actualisation (as per the intimacy-yearning process detailed in the ‘Direct Route Mail-Out James email part-quoted at the top of this page) it activated “a caring which is as close to an actual caring as an identity can muster” and there was indeed action which was not of ‘her’ doing ... to wit: the ending of ‘her’ and all ‘her’ subterfuge and trickery (just to stay in keeping with the above wording purely for effect). (Richard, List D, Srinath2, 6 August 2016).

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VINEETO: It seems that your connection to pure intent, after perhaps having been relegated to mere lip-service through a period of obfuscation and prevarication is now fully alive again, and you can focus on the relevant question of what is preventing ‘me’ from agreeing to ‘my’ abdication.

KUBA: Yes I think I am still swallowing that previous bite, as it was a big one! But that is the question indeed – What is preventing ‘me’ from agreeing to ‘my’ abdication.

KUBA [Addendum]: Actually I like the way Richard put it better – Just what am ‘I’ saving ‘myself’ for?

VINEETO: This morning I came across a snippet from P. G. Woodhouse (a prolific English author and 20th-century humorist, best known for creating the witty valet Jeeves and the bumbling Bertie Wooster – life in the real world of those pathematically inclined –

“The proprietor of the grocery store on the corner was bidding a silent farewell to a tomato which even he, though a dauntless optimist, had been compelled to recognise as having outlived its utility. (pg. 26).

(…)

“How’s business, Bill?” she called to him, as she passed the spot where he stood brooding on the mortality of tomatoes. And, though he replied “Rotten”, a faint, grim smile did nevertheless flicker across his tragic mask. (P. G. Woodhouse, A Damsel in Distress, pg. 30).

Cheers Vineeto (Actualism, Actualvineeto, Kuba 13, 24 May 2026).

June 19 2026

ADAM-H: I realized I’ve been going in circles a bit recently, treading over ground I’ve previously covered.

VINEETO: Hi Adam,

A good realisation. I remember you had a realisation that may be related in February this year –

Adam-H: I’ve been thinking of actualism in terms of two ‘modes of failure’. One is “can’t get back to feeling good” the other is “won’t get back to feeling good”. When it feels more like a “can’t” that’s the sign I’m deceiving myself and I need to dial up the ‘being my own best friend’ energy and get to a place where I can clearly recognize what feeling I am ‘being’. I think the DhO pseudo-actualism practice history is what made it so difficult to figure this out, but I’ve made huge progress on this side lately. (18 February 2026).

When you keep these realisations in mind it enables you to actualise them. Once getting into the habit of acting on them “it operates spontaneously each moment again” –

Respondent: Is there any difference between a realisation and an actualisation?

Richard: Generally speaking a realisation is an understanding of something previously not cognised and an actualisation is the putting of that comprehension into action ... as in acting upon that cognisance so that it is experiential and not only intellectual.

For instance: (…)

• [Richard]: ‘... many years ago, during my five years of an itinerant lifestyle, I would jot down various things in pencil in a notebook: some time later (maybe six weeks or six months) when looking back through the jottings I would quite often be taken by some of them and would wonder why I was not living them ... why they were not an actuality in my life.

In short: sometimes (or even quite often) it takes a while before a realisation becomes an actualisation. (Richard, Actual Freedom List, No. 27e, 3 April 2003).

(Sundry, Frequent Questions, Difference between Realisation and Actualisation)

And another one from the same collection –

James: What about when I find out what happened to end feeling good and I see that it is silly to keep worrying about it yet that doesn’t stop the worrying and I am not back to feeling good?

Richard: Two things immediately leap to mind ... (1) you value feeling worry (a feeling of anxious concern) over feeling good (a general sense of well-being) ... and (2) you have not really seen it is silly to feel bad (a general sense of ill-being). What I would suggest, at this point, is to feel the silliness of feeling bad (in this case feeling anxiety) ... then the seeing (as in a realisation) might very well have the desired effect (as in an actualisation) of once more feeling good. (Richard, Actual Freedom List, James, 13 July 2004a).

Cheers Vineeto (Actualvineeto, Adam-H, 19 June 2026).