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IAN: So now I can sense my self as a being,
sometimes being a son, or being an employee, as in those ways of being occasionally come to the fore and my mood
changes and i start thinking and imagining in the way of that being, and recognise that I am being this or that and
decide to not go down those roads and come back to enjoying and appreciating instead … increasingly easily… so
where in the past I may have been responding or reacting as a son, maybe a frustrated son or a worried son, and
wanting to be a good son or a different kind of son, now I can more easily stop being a son and instead I carry on
enjoying the moment as it is … this is a different way of being … not sure if it aligns with the in control
different way of being but different than normal, right angles different. VINEETO: Hi Ian, This is such an enjoyable description. Now you are beginning to discover aspects of your social identity – a son, an employee and possibly others. And naïvely paying attention to the attributes of these aspects of identity you have the choice to decline those aspects and eventually allow them to wither so that you not only can continue to enjoy and appreciate being here but naïvely marvel in wide-eyed wonder at the magnificence of the physical world around you. This is still the same way of being even though much more enjoyable than before with less moods
and triggers to diminish your enjoyment. As I wrote here It is so much fun to discover and allow naiveté, to be like a child again (with adult sensibilities) and to more be like what you are rather than what (internalized) other people want you to be. I have it on good authority that remembering to be naïve can/will boost your baseline of feeling good to feeling excellent. It’s the opposite of stressing, telling yourself off or pushing hard – it’s being playful, liking yourself and others and enjoying and appreciation being here without any cause or condition, just enjoying being alive. Have a look at Richard’s description where this being naïve can lead to – Cheers Vineeto
CHRONO: I also had some insight into authority. I’ve been seeing that very clearly that no one has any idea what they are doing in regards to living happily and harmlessly. I had been reading up on social identity and saw that there’s a semblance of peace in the world but not actual peace. No one was acknowledging the root cause of why there has not been any peace in the world. They are doing anything but addressing it (the same as I had been). So there is a widespread insincerity. Everyone is playing pretend and I also had internalized this and pretended like everyone else. By choosing to feel good irregardless of circumstances, I sometimes feel I am standing up to all of Humanity. How dare I feel good while the world suffers (or something like that)? Yet I feel more authentic when I am feeling good than at any other time. It’s the doubt casted by my internalizing of Humanity’s many ways of being that pull me back every time. By choosing to be how Humanity is, I give up being authentic. Now I see all of this is because Humanity has not actually addressed the root cause of there not being any peace. VINEETO: It’s excellent that you more and more recognize the insincerity in ‘humanity’s’ morals and ethics because that will let you it shrug off more easily when you feel that ‘humanity’ is shaking its finger at you. There really is no such thing as humanity, it is a collectively felt phantom – there are only flesh-and-blood human beings (albeit all subject to instinctual passions and the identity formed thereof). As such the feeling that humanity is pulling you back is felt as real (as in you should obey the moral and ethical rules) but it is not actual. “Humanity has not actually addressed the root cause of there not being any peace” because it cannot – only individuals humans can do that – and it is delicious to slip out from under ‘humanity’s’ internalized yoke and devote one’s life to something really worth-while that can result in the perfection of actuality becoming apparent. CHRONO: So I had a unique experience after that. Unique because I had not experienced
something like it before. So seeing as how Humanity does not know what it is doing, were there any real rules? Could
I just become actually free if I wanted to? I had been contemplating this at home and then when I was at work as
well. It was a particularly slow day at work so I just reflected on it more. As I was feeling somewhere between
neutral to good at the time, I thought of this moment and how it has been this moment this whole time. I became aware
of a ‘bigness’ or immensity. Not quite sure of how else to describe it. It grew and it was as if my awareness was
drifting into outer space without any central focus. My normal way of being I’d describe as ‘indolent’ in the
sense of I stayed the same fundamentally. But now I was electrified, invigorated, and exhilarated. It felt like
something was performing surgery in my head. As awareness ‘grew’, I saw all of ‘me’ as a point and felt the
sensation of it at my navel area. It reminded me of the ‘pale blue dot’. Except all of me was this pale blue dot.
I felt all of sorrow and was on the verge of tears but the tears would not come. I’m not quite sure why after that,
but I came back down to earth. I was back to normal and felt kind of frustrated after that. I felt frustrated that I
couldn’t allow it to proceed further. The following days I allowed myself to slip below neutral. Then I once again
gathered sufficient intent to feel good again. […]
VINEETO: To me it sounds like a description of having made a connection with pure intent. The contrast to being normal can be quite overwhelming so your pulling back is a natural reaction. Let this awareness grow again via fascinated attention and reflective contemplation all the way to apperceptive awareness.
What an exciting adventure it is to be on the wide and wondrous path to an actual freedom. I really enjoyed your whole report. Cheers Vineeto
CHRONO: It feels more like I am now standing a little more outside that edifice of doubt. When I visited my parents again with all of this in mind, they no longer had the same effect on me. It became clear that they were the first authority from which the edifice of authority was built on. I could clearly see how they were operating and that they were operating the same way. Trying to instil the same fears in me, but this time it seemed just flat out silly. I knew these fears were of no substance. What a relief! This is like a breakthrough for me. VINEETO: While parents were the first authority for you – as for most children – it’s helpful to keep in mind that the situation was the same for your parents, and for their parents, and so on. This means that nobody is to blame for the mess one finds oneself in, and by taking the blame away, doubt will disappear as well because you realize that nobody is the ultimate authority – no one or no thing is in charge of the universe ... that there is no ‘Ultimate Authority’. It might be a shock at the start but realizing this fact is incredibly liberating. It puts you in charge of your own life … and your freedom (and your happiness and harmlessness) is in your hands alone. CHRONO: So to continue from where I left off, I can now
see an alternative path from my usual modus operandi of how I interact with my partner and with others. A highlight
being an alternative path from the road of sexual desire. A soft intimacy which was blocked due to the belief that I
will be alone if I did not continue down the path placed before me by Humanity. A path supported with the belief in a
‘man’ and how that identity should be with his partner (a ‘woman’) and to society. Now it’s starting to
become easier. I had the thoughts after my pure intent experience before like there’s ‘no way that this is
possible’. Now it seems possible! VINEETO: You will find, when you dare to continue to live it more and more, that both naiveté and intimacy are contagious and enticing for those sensitive to it. The authority you used to believe in and obey is the same authority which set the rules for “the belief in a ‘man’ and how that identity should be with his partner (a ‘woman’) and to society”. This authority no longer has the full credibility now as it used to have for you, and with pure intent guiding you, you can explore in which way a male and a female human being can most beneficially interact with each other in a win-win interaction of two fellow human beings. Cheers Vineeto
VINEETO: Yesterday I watched the ‘Virtual Freedom’ video again and Peter reminded me
of something I had almost forgotten – how hard it was at first to allow himself to be happy and harmless. What was
one of the two main objections that he would have to go against the whole thrust of human ‘wisdom’, that one is
not allowed to be happy. IAN: Exactly – this was the force field I encountered when
choosing to be happy rather than stressed (translated as the feeling of authority); how dare I? I dare… VINEETO: That is a very good description! I said something similar to Chrono today, it is not only ‘out there’ how others want you to be, it all inside as well, internalised morals and ethics and principles. That means ‘I’ am my own slave-driver – and recognizing gives you autonomy and the power to change. Your freedom is in your hands and your hands alone – and who would want it any other way? Good hey. Cheers Vineeto
IAN: Hi Vineeto Yes fantastic really and so opposite to the old ways… There’s still a lot of seemingly important but actually silly inertia to being serious, so I can’t say that I am completely free of seriousness, but I’m certainly having more fun by incrementally allowing myself to have more fun and care more, and when I do, I get more confident (even though I already know, it’s that incremental experiential confirmation) that nothing is going wrong. Thought I am wobbly at times, and do get sucked temporarily into these plugholes of normalcy – but it’s all the more interesting to be more and more in tune with what’s happening in my psyche. It’s great to increasingly see those who I used to see as the authority figures (bosses, parents, partner, other men) – that I would be scared of frankly – as fellow human beings – which means that I can see their being and their suffering is the same as mine, and that becoming happy and harmless myself is the only way to care (to lead to the result we all want). Because we are all here doing it, living and breathing, we are all happening right now, and it’s like someone has to make the first move. VINEETO: Hi Ian, This is such a great description of how becoming free of seriousness and allowing naïveté naturally segues into caring – simply because of fellowship regard. Of course, there is a lot more to it than this summary suggests, and the insight and consequent actualising that it is ‘you’ who created the authority in others over you was essential to be able to eliminate the hierarchical perception/ classification of your fellow human beings –
IAN: Which was Richard of course, but relatively it still feels like that… I can’t wait around for anyone else to make the move first, and I’ve already taken those steps anyway… VINEETO: Everyone needs to do the first step because each one is the only person one can change. Even if others make the first move to change themselves you will still have to do the changing yourself, unilaterally. And sincerely contemplating this it is very liberating in itself. IAN: The actual world is the actual world and I can’t puzzle it into existence, we live in it… veils or not. What cool creatures we are… VINEETO: Mmh, you don’t need to “puzzle it into existence” – the actual world already exists and has always existed, it is infinite and eternal and thus incomparable and perfect. It’s already here. But actuality can only become apparent when ‘I’ go into abeyance, either temporarily or permanently because the very passionate existence of ‘me’ completely obscures the perception of the actual world of the senses. In the meantime one can imitate the actual as much as possible based on one’s PCEs, and the way to do that is naively enjoying and appreciating this very moment being alive (and remove the obstacles to doing just that). More and more sensuousness comes to the fore the less affect power ‘good’ and ‘bad’ feelings and passions have. Then you become aware that now is the only moment you can actually experience. It is indeed marvellous and amazing that we humans are capable of being aware, sentient, intelligent and on top of it have the capacity to be aware of being conscious (apperceptive). IAN: and it’s win win win – I get to be happy, and
everyone else gets to be not bothered by my interference/ demands/ pettiness – and the day to day ordinary conflict
situations don’t get out of control/ don’t escalate/ don’t result in me feeling resentful and remorseful for
‘winning’ or morose and resentful for ‘losing’… and I don’t have to feel guilty that I am not ‘doing
something’ to ‘fix’ the feelings of another person… and I don’t need the other person to feel guilty for
not ‘doing something’ to ‘fix’ my mood… VINEETO: What a perfect set-up and you laid it all out – win, win, win for everyone. Getting rid of the oppressive feeling of authority is indeed a great liberation. I remember when ‘Vineeto’ suddenly grasped experientially that there is no possibility that there can be a God existing in this infinite and eternal universe. There is no actual physical place where he/ she/ it could hide or reside and this apperceptive insight resulted in a PCE –
And, of course, there is pure intent, which is so much more reliable that ‘my’ own authority could ever be. IAN: What I mean is I don’t have to be petty anymore… I have allowed myself to feel happy, so no resentment that others or situations aren’t ‘making’ me happy, no feeling of authority telling myself I shouldn’t do it myself… It brought tears to my eyes and gut squeezing-out-all-the-stress/ tension-laugh relief… Wringing out the cloth. VINEETO: This is truly wonderful. Cheers Vineeto
JESUSCARLOS: An ancient belief, both Christian and Buddhist! Perhaps older than religions themselves. And a mantra of today’s world, of meritocracy that justifies inequality between human beings. VINEETO: Here is a question for you – if meritocracy is the cause which *“justifies inequality between
human beings”*, then why do *you* value the expertise, reports and explanations how to become actually free from those fellow human
beings who have succeeded? JESUSCARLOS: I didn’t say that meritocracy was the cause that “justifies inequality among human beings.” I think I needed to provide more context. Meritocracy is a rationale that seeks to allocate resources based on effort and merit. I have no problem with that. I was rather talking about meritocracy as an ideology used by some people in the real world here in Mexico, to justify why some have more than others. They attribute everything to individual effort and erase the true reasons why many people obtained certain resources: social status, class, inheritance, corruption, theft, plunder, violence, etc. Of course, I value the testimonies of those who have succeeded in achieving actual freedom through their own merits, because it has nothing to do with anything other than their own merit and effort. In this case, the purpose suggested by meritocracy truly applies. That’s why, before writing that final statement, I was thanking Kuba for all his success and progress reports, which are very helpful to me. My apologies, I wrote a problematic final sentence without being clear and without providing
context. And I think there are aspects I need to analyze more closely, as to why I came to link one thing with
another. VINEETO: Hi JesusCarlos, Thank you for your clarification. Now that you provided the context, the ideological usage of the word, I do understand better what you meant. As you said, “meritocracy as an ideology used by some people in the real world” then you would be aware that other people would use ‘equality’ as an ideology to counteract the ideology of meritocracy and similarly make a hash of it. It is standard practice in the real world to cure one unpopular/ upsetting situation with its very opposite. For actualism it may be more useful to make a distinction between expertise (based on knowledge, skill and/or lived experience) and an authority connected with power, including psychic power for you to come to your own conclusions. What other human beings do is their own business.
For equity and parity to flourish, one looks at and eventually abandons all principles,
ideologies, beliefs, convictions, attitudes and concepts. (see
Cheers Vineeto
VINEETO: The word “respect” comes from the Latin respectus, meaning “a
looking at” or “regard”, and the verb respicere, “to look back at”. (https://www.etymonline.com/word/respect). Development of meaning: From this original sense, the meaning evolved to include
“regard”, “esteem”, and “consideration”. (Merriam Webster) CHRONO: I think the reason that the word respect has the connotations of some authority (as opposed to authoritative) is because my parents would always say that I need to respect them (and anyone else who holds a particular position). Thus I have been differentiating that word when used usually in a real world setting from regard. But perhaps this takes a further looking into as I noticed in one of my previous posts way back that I had a habit of being a ‘victim’. I’ve taken on board that I need to ‘respect’ people but this means in a sort of psychic submission type of way. And also backed (originally from my parents) that if I don’t then I do not “care” and I will be physically punished. This way of operating demonstrates a complete lack of equity. And equally would not be a way to bring it about. At the core of this is the belief that I need to psychically submit or else people will get angry (sounds very silly and feels embarrassing when I write it out). VINEETO: I don’t know what holds authority, anyone’s authority, in place for you. For ‘Vineeto’ the very justification for any authority disappeared in one fell swoop with the startling apperceptive discovery –
It had been quite a startling and consequential PCE. CHRONO: I noticed in the From Basic Actual Freedom to Full Actual Freedom Part 1
CHRONO: Would you say this course of action only applies if you are basically free? VINEETO: It was written with the social identity in mind who remains in part or entirely in situ when one becomes basically free. When your aim is to become actually free then obviously the outlook of the feeling being identity is equally backward oriented. As such everything I wrote in that paragraph also applies to feeling beings. You can dismantle your psychic and conditioning ties to authority at any time. CHRONO: I also noticed in the same correspondence Richard writes:
CHRONO: I have been wondering if what I experience is an example of a
“need for power” or if that need is something else. VINEETO: Are you asking if the habit of being a ‘victim’ is related to a “need for power”? It certainly is, it is the flip-side of the same power structure, which, being sourced in the instinctual passions of fear and aggression, is operating ubiquitously. By choosing to be naïvely happy and harmless you voluntarily withdraw from the battlefield (not as a pacifist or virtue-hunter) but as someone who prefers (i.e. values more) getting along in a beneficial way with your fellow human beings. You are playing a different game, so to speak. Or, as Richard called it – playing for fun, not for keeps. Cheers Vineeto
VINEETO: Yes, the real-world rules, morals and dogmas operate in opposites and have only two alternatives. There is a third alternative. CHRONO: Weirdly has taken me a longer time to figure that out experientially. I just had this realization about sexual desire and why I have “trouble” with it. It occurs in every human being to some extent, so why am I making a big deal out of its occurrence? And I finally realized it, it’s because of repression. There’s a guilt surrounding it as I mentioned previously. But what if there was no guilt? Then I am somehow morally reprehensible. As I previously saw that ‘I’ cannot end ‘me’ and ‘I’ am already born this way, then there’s no taking blame for my feeling this desire. I understand better now where you say:
VINEETO: To ease the pressure of what was originally repressed may take some persistence because repression happened not only because of the “feeling of guilt” but also because it is something unfamiliar to be explored/ experienced as to what happens when you lift the lid, so to speak. It helps to be a friend to yourself and be gentle and consciously enjoy the adventure, without back-pressure from yourself. Richard’s second part of the quote explains why it has never really been allowed to be explored naïvely. CHRONO: And also this section from Article 2 in Richard’s Journal I am able to see in operation:
I am understanding now that the shift to intimacy is a different game altogether from the one that gives sexual desire a central role. That is, my focus on getting rid of it won’t work. VINEETO: Indeed, half the job is to sort out what doesn’t work. The process of getting accustomed/ familiar with naïvely and gently shifting to intimacy in practice, might sometimes appear a balancing act between “holy” and “vulgar”. Don’t fall for either, keep looking for the fun and benevolent way (to yourself and your partner) – the third alternative. * VINEETO: Indeed, being in control is the sole function of this contingent ‘being’, ‘me’, the entity which does not exist in its own right and needs to control to prevent being exposed as such. ‘You’ need to keep working hard to justify ‘your’ existence, whereas “it’s actually enjoyable when I don’t”, when you can allow yourself to be what you are. You lessen control by progressively allowing the obstacles to enjoyment and appreciation to disappear via attentiveness and (if necessary) investigation – and thus by imitating the actual. CHRONO: Yes I recently noticed as it was happening how much that insults and compliments make up this being a someone. If ‘my’ whole point is to survive, then I’m only taking these on personally to survive. And now I have some more cues to look out for. VINEETO: Ha, it is indeed so, when you look at the content of what your “belonging” really consists of – “insults and compliments” – punishment and reward – made valid by the feeling of power or loss thereof. Another confirmation that you were right when you said “being a “someone” is a serious business” … and ”it’s actually enjoyable when I don’t”. * VINEETO: I don’t know what holds authority, anyone’s authority, in place for you. For
‘Vineeto’ the very justification for any authority disappeared in one fell swoop with the startling apperceptive
discovery – <snipped> CHRONO: Actually the only authority I can think of is the authority of Humanity through morals, ethics, and judgements. But it all hinges on the idea of caring. I have been reflecting again on what it means to be caring in the real world vs being carefree and considerate. Can I be carefree AND considerate? I am reading the chapter titled “It is possible to be sensitive without being vulnerable”. And being ‘vulnerable’ in the real world is perhaps the gateway into what real world caring is. VINEETO: The reason the described PCE (now snipped) was such a consequential event for ‘Vineeto’ because ‘she’ realised that every and all authority people assume stem’s from some god’s authority – god is the ultimate source for what is right and wrong, bad and good (=heaven and hell). All the values by which humans are socialised originate from the ‘Tried and Failed’ legacy of enlightened beings, gods and goddesses. Hence to realise that there is no room for god in an actual infinite, and perfect, universe, and the justification and ultimate origin of right and wrong disappears. The same applies to your “authority of Humanity” and “the idea of caring”. While being caring and considerate are aspects of being harmless, the word “caring” in the real world is generally synonymous with feeling caring, i.e. giving out affective vibes of caring, sympathy and compassion, together with or even instead of practical caring. This is because humanity’s idea of caring is tightly linked to “putting the other before oneself”, being compassionate and self-less. Hence the aim of being harmless together, including the considering the consequences of your words and actions might have, will a clearer guidance for what you want to be –
CHRONO: But what does it mean to actually care? VINEETO:
You can find some more on intimacy and caring in Vineeto, Selected Correspondence, Intimacy CHRONO: I was having an afternoon at work when there was a bout of increased delight. And I remembered that one of the objections that I feel is that ‘I’ need to be here to protect this physical body. When all of a sudden I realized that ‘I’ do not exist to protect this physical body. ‘I’ exist to protect ‘me’. The physical body is secondary to ‘me’. All of ‘my’ caring is self-centred. And I became aware of this most fundamental confusion. This just hit me in a very visceral way and I felt a shiver at the bottom of my spine. And I’ve just been aware since of all of ‘my’ caring since and the inherent self-centeredness of it. VINEETO: Well spotted – “‘I’ exist to protect ‘me’”. Once you are aware of this fact it is much simpler to discover the identity’s tricks and diversions. As always, there is a way of interacting being less self-centred, i.e. being naïvely harmless and considerate and preferring/ valuing intimacy over sexual prowess. CHRONO: Recently a different issue has cropped up and has taken
the place of previous issues. I am seeing indignation and slights featuring more. I for some reason am feeling more
keenly aware of iniquities in every day interactions. I am more aware of ‘injustice’ and ‘unfairness’. I feel
it really deeply. Both in daily interactions and in an overall rule of the world way. Perhaps these are issues I have
not looked at in-depth enough. (I’m writing at work so I’ll have to re-visit my response). VINEETO: Can it be that you notice indignation more because you discovered how much “‘my’ whole point is to survive”? You may find this familiar –
* VINEETO: Are you asking if the habit of being a ‘victim’ is related to a “need for power”? It certainly is, it is the flip-side of the same power structure, which, being sourced in the instinctual passions of fear and aggression, is operating ubiquitously. CHRONO: EDIT: Yes I was thinking they’re related. I can see it being a flip side of the same power structure but am trying to see the third alternative in it. I keep thinking then I’ll be taken advantage of. Actually I think my current issue is related to this being a ‘victim’ and is related to the need for power. Will have to reflect and write more on it soon. VINEETO: Ha, the role of being a ‘victim’ at first appears more virtuous but it is only the other side of aggression inherent to the instinctual passions in each and every feeling being. If you can recognize this and affectively acknowledge it, then neither repressing nor expressing the feeling might allow the third alternative to hove into view. Also the question ‘why do I need power’ may be interesting to contemplate. Personally, I have no power whatsoever. * VINEETO: By choosing to be naïvely happy and harmless you voluntarily withdraw from the battlefield (not as a pacifist or virtue-hunter) but as someone who prefers (i.e. values more) getting along in a beneficial way with your fellow human beings. CHRONO: This does make sense and I am thinking on it further so
that I’m not repressing or expressing indignation in some cunning way. VINEETO: A reminder before you are getting too deep into thinking about the serious problems of life –
Cheers Vineeto
CHRONO: I can see how it can be a balancing act between “holy” and “vulgar” as I have noted on many occasions that libidinal feelings flip into feelings of deep revulsion and disgust. And perhaps that’s all because of how I’ve approached sexuality. I’ve noticed that I actually do have this belief of uninhibited sensuality and sexuality being “vulgar”. Even writing this I am getting doubts whether I should because I am saying something I shouldn’t be saying. I’m being animalistic by considering it. It’s most likely ‘my’ way of interpreting where I have not gone before and intuiting what would happen were I to lift the lid. But I am aware of this now in a way I was not before and as you suggested I will not fall for either and look for the third alternative. VINEETO: This quote from Richard’s journal * VINEETO: The reason the described PCE ( The same applies to your “authority of Humanity” and “the idea of caring”. While being caring and considerate are aspects of being harmless, the word “caring” in the real world is generally synonymous with feeling caring, i.e. giving out affective vibes of caring, sympathy and compassion, together with or even instead of practical caring. This is because humanity’s idea of caring is tightly linked to “putting the other before oneself”, being compassionate and self-less. Ha, the role of being a ‘victim’ at first appears more virtuous but it is only the other side of aggression inherent to the instinctual passions in each and every feeling being. If you can recognize this and affectively acknowledge it, then neither repressing nor expressing the feeling might allow the third alternative to hove into view. Also the question ‘why do I need power’ may be interesting to contemplate. Personally, I have no power whatsoever. CHRONO: Yes I did note that God had been the ultimate authority for ‘Vineeto’ and I can see it all come together for me right now. This need for power, authority, and caring seem to be linked and it has clicked for me in the last week. This is because as I’ve noted before that I’ve unwittingly been applying the “putting others before oneself” injunction. It’s actually related to my being a ‘victim’. It does appear that being a ‘victim’ is more virtuous in the real world and gives the false feeling that I am ‘powerless’. I am actually also exerting power by being a ‘victim’ but just not in an overt way. And I noticed that inherent to being a ‘victim’ is the belief that one is then worthy of being saved from harm and suffering. Almost like that by choosing to be a ‘victim’, I am being humble. And an extension of that is the belief that one can be saved by some Higher Authority or Saviour. It is odd because I’ve never seen myself as believing in some Higher Power but I am acting and being as if there was. Perhaps there is more to unfold here. VINEETO: Indeed, it is excellent you start seeing the bigger pattern, and how ultimately all ‘right’ and ‘wrong’, ‘good’ and ‘bad’ injunctions stem from the ‘Tried and Failed’ paradigm Richard described in his Journal, Article Two, you quoted above. When you understand this in its totality, it loses its virtue, attraction and power over you. CHRONO: I can see how pernicious “putting others before oneself” is because it takes all eyes off ‘me’ and ‘I’ can wreak further havoc. I was wondering “why do I need power” and the answer was only in relation to me being a ‘victim’. Where I am not a ‘victim’ (or an aggressor), there is no need for power. I can fully see what it is to be harmless now. And the subsequent discussions on it have clarified a lot. I can see how setting the bar as ‘no malicious feelings present’ does not necessarily mean that I am being harmless. It’s self-centricity itself which is the issue. And in practice I can already see how much more ease and harmony there is. Making harmlessness a top and first priority easily allows happiness to follow because I am considering both myself and the other. VINEETO: Ah, this is wonderful. Diminishing ‘self’-centricity allows you to be increasingly naïve, liking yourself and others and discovering how much fun being alive really is. Here is a snippet from ‘Vineeto’ you might relate to –
* VINEETO: Can it be that you notice indignation more because you discovered how much ‘‘my’ whole point is to survive“? You may find this familiar –
CHRONO: It does make sense now that I think about it. It seems much of my childhood hurts have been held on passionately deep down and are the source of much of my railing against “the system”. I was on a trip with my partner this past week and we finished watching “Mr. Robot” and I related very deeply with the protagonist especially towards the end. I felt his hurts as my own and the indignation and hurt reached fever pitch. This post from Richard is indeed very familiar and timely as it helped backing out of it. I find myself sometimes thinking that I am supposed to hold onto these hurts and slights, otherwise I will let people walk all over me and take advantage of me. But I am an adult now aren’t I? Something further to unfold here which I will come back to. VINEETO: Ha, here you have the old paradigm’s dichotomy again, being either angry/ indignant or being taken advantage of. It will be such a relief when you finally let go of “childhood hurts” and “railing against “the system””. Instead of looking for/ relying on emotional reactions to what you ought to do or avoid, why not make it a habit to assess each situation intelligently, in line with pure intent in order to work out if you can safely let go of your childhood hurts and resentments.
* VINEETO: A reminder before you are getting too deep into thinking about the serious
problems of life – (snipped quote re humour CHRONO: Also a great timely reminder haha. VINEETO:
Cheers Vineeto
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