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Please note that the text below was written by the feeling-being ‘Peter’ while ‘he’ lived in a
pragmatic (methodological), still-in-control/same-way-of-being Virtual Freedom before becoming actually free.
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Living Together
Peter: The collection of beliefs and instincts
that are common to all human beings is known as the Human Condition. In seeing and fully understanding the appalling consequences
of this Human Condition on both our individual happiness and mutual harmony, Vineeto and I set out to challenge all that was
‘taken for granted’ and all that was said to be ‘set in concrete’.
In undertaking our mutual investigation into what it was that caused
the perpetual battle of the sexes that we both knew so well, Vineeto and I put any issues that arose ‘on the table’ to discuss
each of them, probe them and make mutual sense of them. By regarding them as the Human Condition – beliefs, emotions and
instincts common to all human beings – we were able to largely avoid ‘taking the issue personally’, which had proved the
downfall of all previous attempts at discussing sensitive relationship issues. In my case I was challenging and dismantling my
very maleness – ‘being a man’ and all that it entails.
I found that the whole of our supposedly civilized world is still, at
the very core, based on the primitive instincts of fear, aggression, nurture and desire. They are blind Nature’s rather clumsy
software package designed to give one a start in life and to ensure the survival of the species. We are relentlessly driven,
despite our good intentions and moral codes, to act instinctually in each and every situation in our lives and this is the cause
of most of our angst and confusion.
However, the actual changing of both instinctual behaviour and
societal conditioning required my total self-obsession in order to see what I was doing or feeling at every moment. In this case
it would be – what is it that is in me, which is in the road between us? Why am I upset? Why am I annoyed or moody? Why am I
withdrawn? What is it now, this very moment, that is preventing my experiencing peace and harmony? I was totally interested in
what it was in me. If Vineeto had an issue she wanted to talk about, fine, and if she was willing and we could look together at
something, even better, but it was my being peaceful and harmonious in living with her that I was interested in and focused upon.
And she was interested in her being peaceful and harmonious. We were then each responsible for our own feelings and actions and
for doing whatever was necessary to clean ourselves up – to question all and everything. Our immediate aim was always peace and
harmony now, not off in the future, or dwelling in the past.
Given our intent to clean ourselves up, we delighted in the
opportunity to mutually look into any aspect of the Human Condition that was currently an issue with either of us. The success of
this approach brought instant, tangible results in our living together peacefully and harmoniously – so much so that an
eagerness to bring all our ‘dark secrets’ out of the closet rapidly overtook our inherent fear of exposure.
At last I had found a ‘best mate’, someone I could talk to about
absolutely everything – without holding back; without any men’s or women’s private stuff. I am able to be naked and honest
with her – and why shouldn’t I be? I am able to say anything about myself without that classic fear that it will be used
against me later in some future battle – forgiveness never works.
This has led us to a level of intimacy that far exceeds anything that
is possible when one attempts to bridge the gap between the warring camps with the notoriously unreliable and temporary emotion of
love. It is indeed extraordinary! It is so easy, so right, so effortless and so direct... There is absolutely nothing in the way
between us: no feeling of separateness – an actual intimacy became evident, not one falsely contrived or synthetically
maintained.
Vineeto and I have discovered that, given a relentless obsession to
rid oneself of all the conditionings, beliefs and instincts that entomb men and women in separate camps, it is possible to live
together in total peace, harmony and equity. Further, an actual permanent intimacy is now apparent between us that far outstrips
the fickleness, dependency and emotional bonding that I used to know.
I thoroughly recommend liberation from being either a man or woman rather than blindly
perpetuating the battle of the sexes.
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